How to avoid problems with your Supervisor/Manager. Try these 3 easy tips

You have everything to lose so know your worth!

Supervisors/Managers at these 9 to 5’s be so friendly when you first meet them. They appreciate you and shower you with pizza parties, birthday cards and Valentine’s day Rose frosted cupcakes waiting for you to eat before you start your shift. That’s what my supervisor did. It was almost too good to be true. But the thing about these supervisors/managers is that it be an act and if that their personality isn’t really that friendly type of behavior, the REAL personality will show up sooner or later.

Easy Tip #1: Maintain Serious Behavior

Sometimes, supervisors/managers will see how far they can go with you to see what you’ll take and what you wont take. If you start joking around with them on a constant basis or if you tell your personal family life business, then your boss will think you’re an easy mark to play with. In Most cases, they’ll take your kindness for weakness. They’ll use your information against you and you DON’T want that.

For example, I joked around with my supervisor and did EVERYTHING to make her happy. I work in a tight family oriented job where there are only 4 drivers in our department so if 1 calls out were literally screwed because we have to pitch in to help get the work load done to complete the day even if that means we’re ALL late for our own runs.

I helped with job duties off the clock, and talked on the phone after hours during my dinner hour to the point that my husband had gotten upset with me because my food got cold. I was literally the BEST employee because I kissed ass so to speak. Ass kissing has bad consequences.

This is why you have to remain serious to them so they can’t figure you out or look for any signs of weakness. They’re not suppose to figure you out really. You have a duty to fulfill and that’s important. You were drug tested and your background was looked into. You’re there to WORK and you have to mean business. Don’t give your boss any reason to think you’re a sucker.

Easy Tip # 2 : If you sense toxic behavior from your Supervisor/Manager,seek higher authority immediately

I wish I’ve could’ve done this 4 years ago at my last place of employment. I just ignored the problems and kept working, because I didn’t want any problems. I kept telling myself I’m only here to get a paycheck. You can keep saying that to yourself if you want to. What you are doing is hurting yourself even more. The anger is building up and if you don’t release that frustration, you’ll eventually explode.

And that’s what you don’t want! Especially if you have one of those funny Supervisors/Managers that are curious about your CONTINUOUS excellent attitude and wonder if you have an explosive side. That’s what happened to me. My current and previous Supervisor kept knit picking and trying to find things to poke me just so I could get out of character. I had this happen to me on 2 jobs. I don’t have an explosive side but if you keep pushing a person, it has no choice BUT to be released. I definitely cried and lost sleep wondering why this was happening to me. Thank God for Prayer.

Anyone can lose it.

Like if you abuse an animal, eventually, the animal will get tired of being abused. What’ll happen next? You’ll probably be attacked. You may not be causing unnecessary problems, but the unnecessary problems keep coming your way for no reason and you need to deal with that IMMEDIATELY! Go to Human Resources. Express yourself. Free yourself and your mind. Get it off your chest. You’ll feel much better and the troubles will ease. A record of evil will go a long way just in case something unexpectedly pops off. You won’t be wishing you had of done something before. Trust me, you don’t want to be in a state of REGRET.

Easy Tip # 3: Avoid being buddies with your Supervisor/Manager outside of the work place

My current Supervisor asked me if we could go get our nails and toes done together. I thought about it for a while but then I changed my mind.I thought it would be weird to go out with your Supervisor on the weekend. Especially since what I went through at my previous employment. And let me tell you, you DO NOT want to be buddies with your Supervisor/Manager because they always have the UPPER hand on you just in case things go wrong at your job. At my previous job I was asked if I wanted to go get drinks. I knew back then it was a scam because I didn’t really know my supervisor, she was new and why on earth would she want to go out with me?

And in the end my supervisor turned on me. The once smiling woman who gave me nail design ideas and couldn’t wait to see my nails every time I got them done all of a sudden hated me for NO REASON to the point where I had to go over her head for her to respect me. I also had to use the fact that she wanted to go out with me and maybe she’s upset that we didn’t go out. I told the higher ups this information. When she found out that I used that knowledge against her she was SURPRISED.

Most of the time, people are just NOSY and curious about you. They want to know more of you, your goods, your lows and SADLY, it’s not even TRUE FRIENDSHIP.

Now I’m NOT saying all supervisors/managers are like this. Maybe there are managers and supervisors that are your friends.

I’m just telling my story and what happened to me and I hope I could help someone in this employment world today. Times have changed and so have people.

The moral of the story is your paycheck is your friend! Focus on why you're at work